3 Ways to Get Traction with Your Health Goals Any Day of the Week
There was a time in my life when I wasn’t so healthy and I was stuck in a perpetual pattern of going to bed every Sunday night vowing that I would do better starting Monday morning. I’d prep my food, plan my workouts, put my workout clothes by the bed and set the alarm for an ungodly hour. Then Monday morning arrived and IF I got up at the decided time, I always face-planted with my good intentions by Tuesday or Wednesday, at the latest, and I would start the whole dance over again the following Sunday.
Maybe you are familiar with that dance?
The “I’ll start again Monday morning” habit (cuz… let’s face it, that is what it is: a habit) is exhausting and frustrating because it lands you precisely nowhere.
So, how does one break the habit of Monday morning do-overs? Well, here are a few tips that helped me and maybe they will help you too?Break the habit of Monday morning do-overs once and for all! #breakthecycle #healthygoals Click To Tweet
The sooner you accept that you are a human being with the inherent gift of screwing things up, the sooner you will make progress on your journey to better health.
Assuming you will be perfect along your quest for change is arrogant and downright unreasonable. Riddle me this: Name 1 thing you’ve accomplished in your life perfectly?
Nothing. The answer is nothing. Because life is messy, change is hard, and you are human. So why would you ever expect your journey to be perfect?
Just stop it.
To be honest, I think most people use “perfectionism” as rationalization for not taking consistent action. And, being awesomely human means we are really good at creating habits out of rationalizations like “perfectionism”.
Memorize this phrase and use it often and much: If I am truly committed to change, I will screw up along the way AND that is OK! Progress is not linear, it is more like the cha-cha-cha, one step forward, three steps back.Because life is messy, change is hard, and you are human. #messy #realbeauty #healthygoals Click To Tweet
Lower the Bar
You are a spectacular human and capable of way more than you give yourself credit for. That being said, you are still… human. Your psyche can only handle so much change at a time, so stop expecting so much of yourself at the starting line of the change process.
Take is slow. Be consistent with 1 thing and once you prove to yourself that you can follow through with that one thing consistently, you can raise the bar… a half inch… maybe.
Back to that “being human thing”… we, as humans, pretty much suck at drawing small circles of expectations. We often try to shove so much into our circle from the outset, we feel overwhelmed, exhausted and downright defeated before we have even begun!
I have had many clients over the years argue with me that being consistent with a 5 min action step around their self-care is far too simple for them, so they don’t do it. To which my response is, “If you can’t commit to following through with 5 minutes of something new action in your routine, why the hell would you ever expect that you would be successful with a new daily workout program, meal plan, and everything else that your Monday morning “do-over” entails?”
What is that you say? “Because I am a perfectionist!”
Sigh…Consistency! THEN you can raise the bar… a half inch… maybe. #healthygoals #lowerthebar Click To Tweet
Focus on Direction as Much as Destination
If you were going to take a road trip from San Francisco to Boston, and never referenced your map or GPS, you would probably never arrive.
It is great to know where you want to go and to put gas in the car and snacks in the cooler, but if you don’t have a plan for how you are going to get there, and a system of regular feedback loops to tell you if you are headed in the right direction, you are going to get lost (and therefore defeated) terribly fast.
Direction is built on action. Stay focused on the actions necessary to get you to where you want to go.
Remember the most well planned routes can still present unforeseen challenges like: detours, shitty weather and flat tires. Yet, all of those things are figure-out-able.
You can easily be rerouted should you encounter a detour or roadblock.
Shitty weather passes eventually.
Flat tires can be fixed.
But no one cancels a road trip because of a minor roadblock or a bit of rain (unless you are my grandmother). So this next week, try focusing a little more on your direction and a little less on the destination. Ask yourself often: am I engaging with the actions necessary to get me to where I want to go?
And when your plans go a little or a lot sideways simply check in with your navigational beacon (your actions) often enough that you feel certain you will get to where you want to go regardless if you start your journey on a Monday or any other day of the week.
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