5 Strategies to Show Up For Yourself More Consistently

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After years of coaching and working with hundreds of women on learning to take better care of themselves, I have learned that the biggest obstacle in attaining a health goal for most women is their inconsistency with the ACTIONS necessary for change to occur.

In other words, too much compromise.  

Compromise sounds an awful lot like this:

“I was too busy today, so I didn’t have time to workout.”

“I went to my mom’s house for dinner and didn’t want her to feel bad, so I ate three cookies that she made.”

“I met the girls after work and everyone was drinking, so I had 2 glasses of wine and a slice of pizza.”

What makes these incidents especially dampening to improving someone’s health is they all happen in the SAME week to the SAME client.

Can you relate?  How often do you compromise your plans to take better care of yourself?

Daily?  Hourly?

More often than you follow through with your intentions to improve your health?

It is easy to do when your schedule is too full, your expectations are unreasonable and you are easily distracted by the chaos of life.

Below are a few things to consider when trying to gain traction with your health goals:


Improving your health is NOT about perfection; it IS about doing better.   And how do you know if you are doing better if you can’t remember what you did?

Be accountable to a journal, to a database; to something that you can review on a regular basis!

Human memory isn’t as great as we like to think it is and what you “think” you did yesterday, may in fact, be dramatically different from what actually happened.

Track the actions you are taking to improve your health and ask yourself how you could up-level them by just 1% daily.


I know your schedule is packed with the “to do’s” that you need to get done for other people.

How often do YOU show up in your planner?

  • When will you exercise?
  • When will you prepare your food?
  • When will you tell your boss how overwhelmed you feel with your workload?
  • When will you plan that weekend away?
When will YOU be important enough to put in your own damn schedule?


NOW, sweet sister!  Do it NOW.  Make a habit out of THAT.

You know that expecting to change without making time in your schedule for change to happen is insane, right?!!


One of my teacher’s, Odelia Goldsmidt, told me once during a training session, “It doesn’t matter how it feels, Courtney, just do it.”

I have been carrying those words around ever since.  At the end of the day, it doesn’t really matter how I feel in the moment about something I know is deeply important to me.

I don’t always feel like brushing my teeth, paying my bills or cleaning my house, but I do those things regardless of how I feel, because I want the benefit on the other side of doing those things.

After you schedule the actions you need to take to get what you say it is you want for your health…FOLLOW THROUGH.

Don’t ask yourself 5 minutes before you head out the door how you “feel” about going to the gym.  GO!  How you feel will change in 5 minutes anyway.

You made the appointment…SHOW UP!  Show up like you would for someone you care about.  Show up like you are someone who can be counted on.

Enough drama about how you feel right now.  

How do you want to feel a year from now?

You know who you are and what you want.  Be firm in your conviction to improve yourself and SHOW-UP to DO THE WORK your best requires of you.


Although there is a lot of misinformation out there about how to get healthier, you know more than you think you do.

Healthy living is not really that big of a mystery.

  • Eat REAL food.
  • Drink water.
  • Move.
  • Get enough quality sleep.
  • Do meaningful work.
  • Love.
  • Control the chatter in your head.

If you are really being honest with yourself, you know where you are falling short when it comes to bettering your health.

If you are having a hard time being accountable to yourself, to improve the things that will make you healthier, get help from someone who has navigated the waters ahead of you!  Someone who can help you get up when you stumble and hold your feet to the fire when you are compromising too much.


Make a list of all of the things in your life that you have really truly failed at.

Don’t fret.  The list won’t be as long as you think it will be.

Question why you feel you failed at the things you did list?

Was it lack of consistent effort?

Was it an inability to follow through?

Not showing up?

Are you seeing a pattern here?

On your path to get healthier you are going to trip A LOT. But if you pick yourself and keep walking…it is NOT failure, it is education about what isn’t working.

It is a CHOICE to use the information about what didn’t work to move forward a little more sure footed.

Quitting is also a choice.  

EVERYTHING is riding on YOU caring enough about YOU to rise up, and do the work your highest self is calling you to do.

In the comments below, list the NEXT thing you are committed to following through with today to take better care of yourself.

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