After years of coaching and working with hundreds of women on learning to take better care of themselves, I have learned that the biggest obstacle in attaining a health goal for most women is their inconsistency with the ACTIONS necessary for change to occur.
In other words, too much compromise. Lack of consistent discipline.
Compromise sounds an awful lot like this:
“I was too busy today, so I didn’t have time to workout.”
“I went to my mom’s house for dinner and didn’t want her to feel bad, so I ate three cookies that she made.”
“I met the girls after work and everyone was drinking, so I had 2 glasses of wine and a slice of pizza.”
What makes these incidents especially dampening to improving someone’s health is they all happen in the SAME week to the SAME client.
Can you relate? How often do you compromise your plans to take better care of yourself?
More often than you follow through with your intentions to improve your health?
It is easy to do when your schedule is too full, your expectations are unreasonable and you are easily distracted by the chaos of life.
Below are a few things to consider when trying to gain traction with your health goals:
#1 SCREW PERFECTION
Improving your health is NOT about perfection; it IS about doing better. And how do you know if you are doing better if you can’t remember what you did?
Be accountable to a journal, to a database; to something that you can review on a regular basis!
You memory isn’t as good as you think and what you “think” you did yesterday, may in fact, be dramatically different from what actually happened.
Track the actions you are taking to improve your health and up-level them just 1% daily.
#2 DECLARE YOUR VIP STATUS
I know your schedule is packed with the “to do’s” that you need to get done for other people.
How often does YOUR name show up in your planner?
· When will you exercise?
· When will you prepare your food?
· When will you tell your boss how overwhelmed you feel with your workload?
· When will you plan that weekend away?
When will YOU be important enough to put in your own damn schedule?
NOW, sweet sister! Do it NOW. Make a habit out of THAT.
You know that expecting to change without making time in your schedule for change to happen is insane, right?!!
#3 STOP BEING A DRAMA QUEEN
One of my teacher’s, Odelia Goldsmidt, told me at a recent movement training, “It doesn’t matter how it feels, Courtney, just do it.”
I have been carrying those words around ever since.
After you schedule the actions you need to take to get what you say it is you want for your health…FOLLOW THROUGH.
Don’t ask yourself 5 minutes before you head out the door how you “feel” about going to the gym. GO!
You made the appointment…SHOW UP! Show up like you would for someone you care about. Show up like you are someone who can be counted on.
When you come home from a hard day at work, don’t give yourself the opportunity to question what you planned to make for dinner.
You already know what you are going to have for dinner, because you are a woman of grace & grit and you pre-decided that! Follow through with the plan.
Enough drama about how you feel right now. You are going to feel different in 5 minutes anyway.
How do you want to feel a year from now?
What you feel most of the time around what you need to do to take better care of yourself is simply resistance; a thief trying to rob you of your best life.
Resistance doesn’t deserve your attention!
You know who you are and what you want. Be firm in your conviction to improve yourself and SHOW-UP to DO THE WORK your best requires of you.
#4 OWN IT
Take full responsibility for your progress or lack there of.
Although there is a lot of misinformation out there about how to get healthier, you know more than you think you do.
Healthy living is not really that big of a mystery.
- Eat REAL food.
- Drink water.
- Get enough quality sleep.
- Do meaningful work.
- Control the chatter in your head.
If you are really being honest with yourself, you know where you are falling short when it comes to bettering your health.
If you are having a hard time being accountable to yourself, to improve the things that will make you healthier, get help from someone who has navigated the waters ahead of you! Someone who can help you get up when you stumble and hold your feet to the fire when you are compromising too much.
#5 TOTAL RECALL
Make a list of all of the things in your life that you have really truly FAILED at.
Don’t fret. The list won’t be as long as you think it will be.
Question why you feel you failed at the things you did list?
Was it lack of consistent effort?
Was it an inability to follow through?
Not showing up?
Are you seeing a pattern here?
On your path to get healthier you are going to trip A LOT. But if you pick yourself and keep walking…it is NOT failure, it is education about what isn’t working.
It is a CHOICE to use the information about what didn’t work to move forward a little more sure footed.
Quitting is also a choice. A far less gratifying one.
Please, please, please do not quit on reclaiming your health!!!
EVERYTHING is riding on YOU caring enough about YOU to rise up, do the work, and shine your brightest.
In the comments below, list the NEXT thing you are committed to following through with today to take better care of yourself.