You can borrow mine…
A few months back I was sharing a challenge I was having in my business with a colleague of mine and she said to me without hesitation, “Courtney, you will figure this out. You are one of the smartest people I know.”
After I stopped laughing…
I responded with, “You need to meet more people. I am not smart, I am just stubborn. I will work at it until I figure it out.”
When I thought back on this conversation later in the day I got wildly curious about why I don’t think I am smart.
And you know what I came up with?
Because I borrowed other people’s thoughts about me to validate that I wasn’t smart…
“Math just isn’t your thing, Courtney.”
“You know what they say about blondes, Courtney.”
“We regret to inform you, Courtney, that you have not been accepted to ___________.” (which I always read as “not smart enough”)
Why was I choosing to borrow beliefs that make me feel like crap and riddle me with self-doubt?
If I am going to borrow beliefs why not borrow ones that fuel my confidence?
I had access to those too.
“I love you, Courtney.”
“You inspire me, Courtney.”
“I believe in you, Courtney.”
Maybe you are having a hard time developing beliefs that empower you on your own, so I want to give you a few that I have about you that you may want to borrow:
You are stronger than you give yourself credit for.
You can create anything you want.
You are not broken.
You are enough just the way you are.
You can do hard things.
You deserve to be happy and rested and loved.
You are loved.
You have plenty of time.
You are one-of-a-kind and beautifully designed.
You are needed.
Try these thoughts on. See how they feel.
If you wear them long enough, I am pretty sure you will want to keep them.
And, you can.
Just promise me you will pay it forward when you meet someone who looks like they need a belief to borrow.
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