So You Want To Quit?

By October 13, 2013blog, Do The Work

Quitting is tempting. It is easy. It is liberating…for a moment.

 

No one ever does it on a GOOD day.

 

Nope. You do it on the days that struggle seeps into your flow, and insecurity whispers lies that you will never arrive at your destination. You start to question everything and, worst of all, you fail to remember why started traveling down this road to begin with.

 

It is on those days that you would do anything for a little more GRIT to keep going, silence the fear, and reclaim your flow.

 

IT is on the hard days that courage is called out of her lair and reigns supreme…IF you unleash her.

 

I have been on a journey to move better for my entire life. I started dancing when I was 3 and at 39, I am still exploring more movement possibility (in fact, I feel like I am just scraping the surface).

 

Honestly, as long as I have been at this game of up leveling my health and capacity for movement…resistance still greets me in some form every day.

 

I am not immune to it. I don’t expect I ever will be. So, I practice dancing with it and the more I practice, the better I have become at taking the lead.

 

Every day, often multiple times a day, I have to give myself a pep talk (sometimes in the form of a smack down) to get myself out of bed, prepare my food, and train my body.

 

I agree it would be SO much easier NOT to do those things!

 

AND…

 

I also know that life would be SO much harder if I chose to settle in the house mediocrity.

That is not who I am. I will not live in that place. I don’t belong there.

And neither do you.

 

So tell me…

 

  • Do you have days where it feels so hard to get healthier that quitting feels like the only sane course of action?

 

  • Are you so intimidated by the new skills you have to adopt to get healthier, that it just feels easier to avoid them all together?

 

  • Do you feel lonely because it seems like you are the only one working hard at this “healthy lifestyle” stuff?

 

  • Does it seem like your friends and family are trying to break your resolve by pushing alcohol and unhealthy food on you?

 

  • Do you feel like you have to negotiate the time you set side for taking care of yourself to tend to “more important” matters?

 

  • Does it feel like you summit one mountain on your journey to better health, only to realize there is a BIGGER, more daunting summit that you just didn’t see when you started your climb?

 

Hear this, sweet sister!

 

IT IS TOTALLY NORMAL TO FEEL ALL OF THE ABOVE AND MORE WHEN YOU ARE TRYING TO RISE UP AND TEST THE HEIGHT OF JUST HOW FABULOUS YOU CAN REALLY BE.

 

That is why so few do it☺

 

In fact, it would be odd if none of this showed up for you.

 

You WILL have hard days and resistance will be with you in full force for much of your process.  Does this mean you should submit to living your life at a lower elevation?

 

No. Absolutely not! Don’t you dare!!!

Do these things instead:

 

 

REMIND YOURSELF DAILY WHY YOU STARTED TO CLIMB

 

  • What is up there that intrigues you so much?

 

  • How deeply will you regret never seeing the view from the top?

 

  • How much more esteem will you have for yourself when you do arrive?

 

FOCUS ON YOUR ACTIONS NOT THE OUTCOME

 

Break your process down into smaller steps, and then even smaller steps still.

 

If you only focus on the summit, you will continue to feel overwhelmed, intimidated, and fearful (change is a BIG mountain).

 

Focus on just the NEXT STEP.

 

BUILD A TRIBE

 

WARNING: it is likely these are not the people you consider your closest friends and family. After all, how many times have you told them you were embarking on a new diet or fitness program that didn’t work in the long run?

 

Make this an opportunity to introduce new people into your life.

 

Build a tribe that supports you and reach out to them often.

 

KEEP REALITY IN CHECK

 

Looking back to see how far you’ve come can really help lift you out a pit when you are feeling like things are too hard and you aren’t getting anywhere.

 

In my movement practice this looks like recording my work on video so I can SEE the progress.

 

What can you keep track of to better track your progress so when you want to quit you are reminded of how far you have come?

 

STUDY OTHERS

 

Look for the people who have what you want, who display a strong work ethic and commitment to growth.

 

Question them, hang out with them, and learn from them.

 

They can identify with where you are, and most likely, provide some simple tips to help you conquer the obstacles ahead.

 

COACH YOURSELF

 

Create power statements to inspire and drive you to DO THE WORK. My current favorites are:

 

  • I AM NOT MADE OF SUGAR
  • EYE OF THE TIGER
  • DRIP BY DRIP

 

The first two came from my own teacher Ido Portal, who I asked to help me closer to my own greatness.

 

My powers statements keep me doing the work when I would much rather go eat dark chocolate and dance wildly at my own pity party.

 

What are your power statements around improving your health?

 

QUESTION THE OBVIOUS

 

When I am struggling more than usual. I revert to this very simple checklist to find out what else is going on:

 

  • When was the last time I ate?
  • Am I hydrated?
  • How well and how much have I been sleeping?
  • What else might be stressing me out?
  • When was the last time I took a break?

 

Most importantly, make this fierce committment:

 

NEVER QUIT ON A BAD DAY, because, chances are there is a GOOD one right around the corner

 

It feels better to know you aren’t alone, eh?

 

Well, help a sister out, and leave your power statement in the comments below.

You words just might inspire the GRIT someone else needs to get out of bed tomorrow and climb a little higher towards her magnificence.


6 Comments

  • Donna McKiernan says:

    “The battle,sir, is not to the strong alone, it is to the vigilant, the active, the brave”
    Patrick Hardy

  • Courtney says:

    That is a great one, Donna! Thanks for sharing!!

  • Janette says:

    I been on the outlook for some good “mantras” since you posted this and I read a couple that I liked today:

    “Get comfortable being uncomfortable”

    “If a thing is worth doing, it is worth doing badly”

    • graceandgritCT says:

      Janette,
      I love those! Especially the second one. So often we get hung up on something new feeling awkward that we don’t give it a chance. Ido says, “there is no such thing as being uncoordinated, the problem is lack of education”. You are such a pleasure to work with and I am so proud of the progress you are making!

      Warmly,
      Courtney

  • Vickie says:

    Thank you for this post. It really hit home. I’m going through some hard times rebuilding myself through and despite the residual pain suffered from an injury. I may not get back to where I was but I still want to be the best that I can be. As you know, each day is a challenge and as I know I must give it my best everyday. Thank you for the encouragement.

    • graceandgritCT says:

      Vickie-
      I am glad this resonated and brought you a bit of comfort. Life certainly doesn’t always deliver what we expected, but we are always in the best position to handle whatever comes our way when we are treating our mind, body and soul with respect. I am cheering you on all the way:)

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