The Power of Apology

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apologize to your body.
maybe
that’s where the healing
begins.

 

—Nayyirah Waheed

I read this poem from Waheed’s poetry collection, Salt, on my way to Amsterdam last night and it made a direct hit on my heart in a way that only truth can.

When it comes to our bodies, we tend to:

dictate
expect
demand
withhold
force
deny
berate
resent
compare
ignore

What very few have the gumption to do is… apologize.

Apologizing is a form of communicating that we care about the well-being of the other; that we respect the other. The “other” in this case being your body.

For a long time I have believed that respect for anything is enhanced by expressing gratitude, but after reading Waheed’s words, I am reminded that when trust has been broken, as in the case of many women’s relationships with their own body, an apology is best place to begin the mending process.

But damn, can apologies can be hard. Like, really stinking hard!

They require softening and admission of error.

And…well…those two things don’t come so easy to most humans I have met.

So, here is a suggestion on how to make the apology to your body easier: write it out with the intention of ALSO forgiving yourself.

It’s a two-fold process. You have to apologize SO THAT you can forgive.

Simple in theory. Not so easy in practice.

So, let’s practice! (You probably know by now that I am a big fan of the practicing bit.)

Consider writing an apology letter to your body this week and ask yourself if you are willing to forgive yourself for the way you have spoken to it, spoken about it and for how you have mistreated it over the years, so you can move closer to the forgiving part.

I wrote my own letter years ago, which you can read here.

Feel free to share anything you feel like sharing about this exercise by simply commenting below.

If you feel like you have been in a never-ending battle with your body, I cannot encourage you enough to do this. It will take a bit of time to do, but think of all the time you will save if the battle ended:)

Your apology is the doorway to forgiveness and forgiveness is fertilizer for your well-being.

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