To the Woman Who Has Entered the Midlife Arena
I know you are busy, but listen up.
You are being presented with a life-altering opportunity and it would be tragic for you to miss it.
Midlife is, perhaps, one of the most important junctures you will cross in your lifetime. The choices you make now will leave an indelible print on the rest of your story.
Counter to the lies you are sold… this is not the time to fade into the backdrop.
No, it is time to stand on the center stage in your life, boldly, proudly and unapologetically.
And to do that…
You are going to have to make some strong decisions about a few things that I have a sneaking suspicion may be riddling you with self-doubt…weighing you down and making your travels of late much harder than they need to be.
What decision, you might ask? Well, decisions like…
Do I want to spend the rest of my life chasing a version of myself from the past or am I ready to decide hard about who I want to be moving forward and go all-in on her?
Do I want to continue to wage this war against my body or am I ready to make peace with it, so I free up the resources to spend on it for the things I am really here to cause, contribute and inspire?
Do I want to keep outsourcing my decisions to people who “know better” than I do, or am I ready to start taking ownership for how much I have known all along but was just too afraid to make other people uncomfortable to acknowledge that?
Do I want to continue the never-ending cycle of knowing what I want => second-guessing => marinating in self-doubt => then breaking the promises I make to myself over and over again, or do I want to build a new cycle of knowing what I want => going after it => fortifying my confidence and my trust in myself?
IT IS TIME, dear woman.
Time to start believing in yourself.
Time to start leading your life.
As Brené Brown so eloquently says:
“Midlife is when the universe gently places her hands upon your shoulders, pulls you close and whispers:
I’m not screwing around. All of this pretending and performing—these coping mechanisms that you’ve developed to protect yourself from feeling inadequate and getting hurt—has to go. Your armor is preventing you from growing into your gifts. I understand that you needed these protections when you were small. I understand that you believed your armor could help you secure all of the things you needed to feel worthy and lovable, but you’re still searching and you’re more lost than ever. Time is growing short. There are unexplored adventures ahead of you. You can’t live the rest of your life worried about what other people think. You were born worthy of love and belonging. Courage and daring are coursing through your veins. You were made to live and love with your whole heart. It’s time to show up and be seen.”
What is going to take for YOU to show up and be seen?
What is going to take for YOU to finally become a fully expressed human and fulfilled human?
“I don’t know” is not an answer. It is an avoidance tactic.
You know. You have always known.
What are you going to have to STOP doing?
Might you need to stop being such a jerk to yourself physically, mentally, emotionally?
Maybe you need to stop spending your precious life resources on shit that is totally out of alignment with what you say it is you want for your life?
What are you going to have to START doing?
Putting more stock in your opinion of yourself and less in what others think of you?
Show up for yourself, not just when the mood strikes, but… EVERY…SINGLE…DAY?
Midlife is trying to shake you awake. She will be violent if she has to be because it is go-time.
Time to ditch all the second-guessing.
Time to go all-in on having your own back.
Time to be fully YOU.
It is no coincidence that you are currently in the most hectic time of life with the LEAST amount of hormones on board to help you manage your stress.
It’s like the transition into the second act (known as menopause!) is nature’s way of telling you that if you don’t make some serious renovations to your life, your house is going to implode.
Keep the stuff that lights you up and feels totally in alignment with who you are at THIS age and stage of life.
Everything else…well… it’s gotta go
If you don’t let go, you are going to create a lot of unnecessary suffering for yourself. Worse yet, the energy it will take to endure that needless suffering cannot be used for the things you value most.
Your best years truly are ahead of you NOT behind you.
IF you want them to be.
IF you are willing to shed everything that is weighing you down AND finally unpack the wings you have been carrying around all along.
You can stay on the edge of the precipice to the rest of your life wishing and hoping and some-day-ing or you can decide here and now to take flight… at last.
That is the invitation of midlife.
I hope you choose the latter 😉
P.S. If you need help with that… I know a gal who has made it her mission to help women midlife get out of their own way so they can make the second have the best half.
That gal is me 🙂
And I have created a space just for you.
It is called Rumble & Rise and it is a community of midlife women who are ready to fully show up in their life in the way they have always wanted to.
Come join us. You can check out all the details at www.graceandgrit.com/readytorumble